eced 11*Common behavioral disorder in children*

Behavior problems and what is normal behavior in a child is determined by child's age, physical and emotional development, personality and what is socially and culturally acceptable in his or her surroundings. A child who may be considered normal in one part of the world may be considered as one with behavior problem in other part of the world. Family's expectations, whether the action is disruptive and what is expected from an average child of that age determined whether a child has 'good' behavior or a 'bad' one. Children learn to behave in a certain manner by observing other people.

Behaviors that are appreciated or rewarded may make the children repeat them again and again and the behaviors that are ignored or warrant punitive actions are normally dropped off. It is the consistency of the parents that helps the child decide, whether to continue a behavior or not. Rewarding a behavior at one time and punishing the child for it on another, may just confuse the child and your child may develop behavior problem. Sometimes, we may have to decide whether the behavior is not a problem depending on the child's age and stage of development. Ignoring unwanted or 'bad' behavior is the best way to stop it in the long term as some children just repeat the actions as they crave for your attention, whether it is positive or negative.

When more drastic steps are needed to make the child stop a certain behavior, you may use the time-out method as a way of punishment. Explain once but do not discuss bad behavior again and again. Reinforce good behavior by giving rewards. Reward system works best for children above two years of age and it may take about two months to make the children understand how it works. Parents need to be patient. Keeping a diary and targeting at just one or two behaviors to change at once makes it easier for kids and parents too. Behaviors you choose can include brushing teeth before going to bed, keeping toys and books in their place and good table manners.Rewards cane simple fun activities that you share with your children such as an extra bedtime story, allowing children to delay their bedtime by half an hour to watch their favorite cartoon, a preferred snack or points for older children that they can collect and use to get a special toy or favor from you. Before switching a child doing one thing to another, tell him beforehand, such as in five minutes, playtime will be over or it's dinnertime in another ten minutes. Punishments and shouting at children may just make them rebellious or they may repeat the behavior to get your attention, which they may crave for more than any reward. Simply, do not give them the reward that they would have got, if they had behaved in the desired way.

Stopping Baby Bites
Breastfeeding is not only a source of nutrition for kids but also a source of comfort. Nursing is a pleasurable experience for both mother and the child as babies suck on breasts, calming hormones are produced in the mother’s body, which makes her feel very relaxed. However, during teething, children often start biting on breasts and use it as a teething ring instead of just a pacifier, which is painful for the moms.

Learning Good Behavior for Kids
Here are some games that you can play with your child everyday as a fun way of learning good behavior. These games are also quite helpful in making your child a lot easier and end many of the power struggles with your little ones and make them do things quickly and much more efficiently

Behavior Correction Tips
The argument on the validity of the statement of ‘Spare the rod and spoil the child’ has been going on for ages. Many parents think that physical punishment, such as spanking, sometimes becomes unavoidable and a ‘must’ to stop undesirable behavior in a child. Experts say that physical punishments can make your child stop a certain behavior but do not teach him to correct or change it.

Fear of Strangers
A baby’s temperament is reflected right from the way he or she reacts as an infant. Around 4 months of age, babies start trying to read people’s faces and behavior closely and try to differentiate between people who can be trusted and who cannot be trusted. Some babies are more extroverted and friendly than others and readily go to strangers

Hair Pulling
We never know from where the toddlers can pick up some of the most annoying habits. Most of them are harmless and with growing age and maturity, they vanish. One of such habits is a child pulling his own hair, which hurts him too. They may even have bald spots and parents are worried whether their children need behavior therapy as a corrective action. Here are some tips that you can use to handle hair-pulling children:

Mood Swings in Toddlers
Mood swings in toddlers can rally frighten some parents. At one moment, they are happy, making pleasant talks to everybody around them and playing and chuckling but come another moment, and they transform into little devils and start screaming, flailing their arms angrily and throwing toys. The biggest worry is whether the child has some serious emotional problems or is this just a passing phase.

Habit of Stripping Clothes in Kids
Toddlers do not understand modesty until they are five years old. They do not understand the need to do things that are socially acceptable. Wearing clothes may seem an unnecessary burden to the innate barbaric in them. They may like their birthday suits and parents have been embarrassed when their child insists on being a nudist or strip off his clothes and streak in a party with a broad grin on their faces.

Time-Outs As Punishments
Does your kid show inappropriate behavior? If yes, then you would realize that it is so difficult to make kids behave properly, especially when they are between 18-24 months of age. Most parents spank their child or face power-struggles with the kid. However, as parents, you should realize it is not punishment that the kid requires.

Toddler Tantrums
Tantrums are a normal stage of toddler development. In some children, they just cross the limits and become intolerable. During this phase, the child cries uncontrollable, screams and yells, may throw things or even vomit. He or she may also try to hit the parents or caregivers if they do not get what they want or their whim is not catered to.

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In every society, we can not escape the mere fact that we, as humans, are capable of conflict in whatever situation we are in. From the smallest of families to the biggest of corporations, wherever there is interaction you can assure yourself that there is some kind of conflict that is ensuring.

The truth about it is that, conflict always begins from the smallest reasons possible. This is the reason why people seek conflict resolution to help weed out and prevent any kind of conflict from happening. This is most essential if you want to keep the relationship you have with your loved-ones and co-workers alike.

Most people do not see the value of conflict resolution, but this has been proven to be very effective in ones social development. We should also put into consideration the fact that sometimes the other party may not be open to conflict resolution, but nevertheless it should be something that the other must pursue.

There are different kinds of conflict resolution available for society to consider. Remember that there are different approaches for different kinds of conflict situations. It is usually a matter of deciding what would probably work best for you and would generally fall under what is acceptable for the two parties.

One such conflict resolution would be mediation. When people get into a heated argument, you can be positive that all sorts of unnecessary words would come out of each others mouth. The idea of mediation is that the conflicting parties may ask a friend to act as a "balancer" between the two. The mediator's goal is to make sure that the talks come out the way it should be and help in finding a meaningful solution to the conflict.

 

Another effective way for conflict resolution is family therapy. This kind of conflict resolution is specifically for family dilemmas. While there are hundreds of families that have a potential to be broken due to the problems they face at home, this kind of therapy is geared toward enhancing love between family members though means of psychotherapy and other means. Note that this kind of resolution involves fixing all sort of family issues there are.

Arbitration is a kind of conflict resolution that is used when critical decisions need to be made to stop the conflict as soon as possible. Usually, in arbitration, the conflict is decided upon by an individual or legal entity that has the power to make decision based on the facts that have been stated by the two conflicting parties. A good example of those capable of arbitration is the local courts we have in our area.

Remember that regardless of the conflict, it is very important that the issue is resolved immediately. There is no reason to keep a withstanding and destructive issue to hinder ones everyday life. As much as possible, it would be good to keep the relationship between two parties intact. It is also best that once the issues of conflict are resolved, they will not be brought up again.

eced 11- failed survival

I. once, there is an old woman who used to live with his eldest son. One morning, the old woman had an argument with his son. Unintentionally, the son raised is voice against his mother. because of so much depression, the old woman tried to escape from their house. Her daughter in law and her grandchildren tried to find her but they failed. While on the other side, his son who went to his work, doesn't know about what had happened until he received a phone call informing him that his mother was rushed to the hospital because of a car accident. He then rushed to the hospital and confronted the doctor. the doctor told him that his mother will be needing an operation for her to live. The eldest son go to the hospital church and prayed there whole-heartedly. He asked forgiveness from God and asked God to save his mother. After praying, he went to his mother's side, kissed her hand and say sorry. After a while, tears fell from his mother's eyes and then she shake. The son shouted for help. A few moment after, the doctor went out of the room and told him that his mother passed away, not because of the injuries she got from the accident but because of heart attack.

II.
strong points: despite of the mistakes done, the son still humble himself and ask forgiveness.
weak points: sometimes, respect is being forgotten when we are angry.

III.
I can relate to the story because I always have misunderstanding with my mother but often ask for her forgiveness.

IV.
moral: value people while they are still alive. Respect others as yourself, especially the elders.